Imagine, that a part of your subconscious mind that holds 97% of your brain capacity looks like a huge bulldozer. It operates with emotions. It is powerful but it has been moving in a wrong direction, because this powerful machine has been driven by a little child.
The child doesn’t know how else she/he can make you feel good. The little girl/boy tries to help you the best she/he can, but she/he doesn’t know-how to deal with anger, fear, anxiety, worry… …she/he doesn’t know how to live your adult life and make adult choices when it comes to emotions. That child is your subconscious mind.